Category: Marriage/Family

When Marriage Becomes a Private Matter

It matters profoundly whether a society understands marriage as a public concern or merely a private matter. Yet few Christians spend much time thinking about whether marriage is fundamentally public or private. Young adult Christians tend to consider marriage a private matter (with some public manifestations). The wedding is a public event, but the marriage itself is considered nobody’s business. Decisions to divorce are private, though they entail public legal filings, and declarations, social shifts in relationship status, the creation of distinct households, etc. Westerners in general tend to minimize these public aspects of divorce, expecting little to no objection from others. Most do not share the perspective of Jessica—a thirty-one-year-old engaged Catholic from Austin—who imagines marriage as creating circles that ripple out “to the extended family, to the community, to the nation, and to the entire society.”

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Nurturing dads raise emotionally intelligent kids – helping make society more respectful and equitable

When fathers are caregivers – when they provide emotional support and act affectionately toward their kids – the effects go well beyond growth, development, good health and solid grades. My research shows the benefits also include having children who value emotional intelligence, gender equality and healthy competition.

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The Bureaucracy of the American Families Plan

In an April address to Congress, the Biden administration proposed the $1.8 trillion American Families Plan (AFP). The aim is to invest in families by providing universal preschool education, mandating comprehensive paid family leave, and extending tax cuts to lower and middle-class families.

The plan not only intends to provide aid in the wake of COVID-19’s economic destruction, but also to make the U.S. provide paid family leave, as it is one of the few Western countries that does not.

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Perspective: If rich people can’t make marriage work, can the rest of us?

Most Americans are not willing to forgive a spouse’s infidelity, according to a Gallup Poll. Only about 1 in 3 Americans say they would forgive their spouse for marital infidelity, including just 10% who say they would definitely forgive him or her. Democrats turn out to be more forgiving than Republicans, which I guess seems fair given the fact that they’re more likely to cheat in the first place.

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Marriage is Not a Contract

That children are not consulted before a family is dissolved is the clearest sign of the injustice of the contractual view of marriage. The most basic principle of the liberal logic of contract is not adhered to in the case of its most vulnerable members, who are treated as nonpersons. Few children would willingly acquiesce to the divorce of their parents and their interests matter.

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No-Fault Divorce Is Not the Right Way to Achieve “Therapeutic Justice”

While it is good that legal systems have become more sensitive to the psychological effects of the law on participants in the legal process, we should be wary of claims that assert that no-fault divorce is “therapeutic” for divorcing couples or their children. Advocates for the sanctity of marriage across the globe should pay close attention to this shift.

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