Most parents want to raise children who take a positive slant on life, who enter adulthood prepared to grapple with new responsibilities, who know in their bones what it means to love and to be loved. They want children who are comfortable with themselves, who look at life as an adventure with obstacles to be overcome, and for whom despair is as foreign a word as kummerspeck, which is German for “grief bacon” and appropriately refers to weight gained while under stress.
But are these healthy goals?
Frequent school shootings are increasing the level of concern and even fear in children and school staff. In many of my interviews with teachers and students, I heard their comments and bore witness to their fears. A common theme was that many are scared and anxious. Worrying if your school is next to be one of the statistics is not healthy for anyone. Traumatic experiences alter the way we think and react and the stories that we tell ourselves.