A few weeks ago, I saw my two nephews. My mum keeps a big box of our old toys, and the three-year-old loves the kitchen set: he delights in plonking radioactive-looking broccoli florets on plates or, learning from trips to Starbucks with his mum, making me “mint teas” in empty paper cups. It brought back memories of my twin sister and I playing house — coddling our existentially staring Baby Annabells, cooking up imaginary banquets and sassily roleplaying with fake flip phones. Is there anything so harmless?
But recently, make-believe has had a facelift. Gen Alpha — aged around 13 and under — have grown up to the sound of pinging iPhones. The effects of omnipresent social media have yet to appear in their entirety, but recent studies have reported, aghast, that among other things young children now “swipe” books instead of turning the pages. What is less discussed is the fate of that narrow window between girlhood and womanhood, where imitation — of our mothers, sisters, TV idols — informs the adults we become.
Enter the tween skincare addicts: girls as young as 10 slathering excoriating retinoids on their baby faces, scanning beauty aisles for hyaluronic acid formulas, bookmarking videos of the best “dupes” of £300 La Mer moisturisers. These girls are copying women who are, in turn, trying to prevent the ravages of age. It’s a closed circuit with one clear beneficiary: skincare companies such as Drunk Elephant which, TikTok detectives speculate, uses bright packaging to deliberately entice the youngest potential customers.
So-called “Sephora kids” have become a new virtual bogeyman, with videos of throngs of tweens queuing up at the beauty department store raking in thousands of likes and indignant comments. Viewers complain of children leaving samples spilling over counters, dragging parents to tills to drop a week’s wages on It-products, or slapping on lotions with the exuberance of a rebellious daughter digging through her mum’s makeup bag. For this is exactly what it is: ancient bottles of Estée Lauder Double Wear and dusty Bobbi Brown blushes found during tip-toeing trips to your mum’s bedroom have simply been replaced with slick, silicon-free Bubble and Glossier cleansers name-checked in online beauty “hauls”. Tweens have always roleplayed as the adults they see — the difference, now, is that these are strangers online espousing the rites of a new purification cult.
In the glossed, plucked and pouty world of TikTok, anything and everything can be improved, filtered and fixed. A decade ago, when millennials began deploying filters and Facetune, photos of pub crawls and freshers weeks gave way to selfies with lolling dog tongues and colossal lashes. Gradually, women began to self-fashion to resemble these filters: they would paint on, or inject in, a Kardashian cheekbone, a Jolie lip or the Tipp-ex white teeth of a Love Islander.
But Gen Z has bucked the trend to embrace “wellness”, with its fixation on “natural” looks and lifestyles in such a way that medication, meditation and skincare have turned the scrutiny inwards. Balking at the artifice of noughties glamour, with its visible extensions, orange foundation and boob jobs, Gen Z has moved towards an extremely effortful effortlessness in the form of the minimalistic “clean girl aesthetic”. The clean girl sweeps her hair into a claw clip French twist. She has a clear complexion perfected with an arsenal of skincare solutions, and if she wears foundation it must be so light as to be virtually undetectable. She is always flushed, probably having just come in from a “hot girl walk” to fetch a matcha latte. And she can probably be found journalling, manifesting, setting relationship boundaries or drinking CBD-infused kombucha.
There’s nothing Alpha about this up and coming generation. Generation Beta would be more appropriate…
How about ‘Generation Nadir’?
You’re on to something there!
I think the author might be overthinking this. Young girls align themselves with the superficiality and shallowness they see all around them, and which is increasingly a part of female culture. What they need are better role models.
Some mums locally arrange princess pamper parties for their six year olds birthday parties for gods sake. Could they not focus more on girls being active, and doing stuff, rather than obsessing over appearance like mum does? But of course mum thinks that’s what life is about so she passes it on.
It is the parents, who are at fault! No parental controls set on phones and tablets. And never say no when out shopping. If the only words these girls hear are “oh, alright!” how do they learn anything. And the biggest downside is not what they do to their skin, but what they do to the rest of us when they get into the workplace because nobody has ever put societal boundaries in place. There is a male equivalent too. Both come with an aggression not seen before in young people… And one that will land them before a judge!
Growing up in British Forces schools and usually the toughest state schools in Britain in the 1970’s/1980’s I can quite honestly say that excessive make up usage was the norm. Outlandish hair colours, which are not permitted today, were omnipresent. This has always been the case. The only difference now is that fewer children are taken in with what corporations are selling them and their parents. There are so many modest and thoughtful girls and boys that would never go near anything resembelling conspicuous consumption.
“Bubble Bounce Back Balancing Toner Mist”
That’s a real thing! I looked it up! I thought she made it up!
As a Gen X’er my response to all this stuff is best summed up by an internet meme I was sent recently.
It is a photo taken sometime in the late 1970s of a toddler sitting on his father’s lap being given a sip of lager from a can. The caption reads:
“Generation X. The last great generation before all these other tw*ts came along.”
When I read about the social-media inspired contortions younger generations are twisting themselves into, I realise a childhood featuring such simple delights as a sip of supermarket lager was pretty healthy all in all.
Weird. Was this published elsewhere before appearing on UnHerd? I read another a week or so ago that was nearly identical, down to the products cited.
The writer condemns the fetishisation of how young females respond to TikTok and other social media, but it seems to me she also indulges in a form of fetishisation of just being a young female, as per the above quote but also in other passages.
Whilst not doubting the tribulations that young females must go through as they enter their teens, its also entirely natural and the writer’s generalisations suggest there’s something problematic about it in a way that previous generations wouldn’t have dwelt on quite so readily. It could even be that the negative emphasis placed on entering puberty is one reason for attempting to avoid it, either by the trans route or simply by disengaging through the use of online escapism.
I wonder if this occurs to her, as she puts her otherwise intelligent articles together?
These people need to get a life.
What a waste of time and energy.
this seems like an odd fixation at a time when womanhood itself is under attack. In a time when adults are pushing the sterilization of kids, worrying about makeup and social media influencers looks out of place.
But it is these social influencers that push young girls into tbe world of “trans”. Recently my niece was horrified to find a girl she has followed for 5 years, now now wants to be known by male pronouns. And has told her followers it is cool to trans as young adults. My niece had pressure put on her at her all girls school to trans as she had taken to wearing her dad’s shirts and jumpers, just the same as her aunts did! We all grew up as stong women not weak men, just as my niece will, but it is out there waiting for all young girls even on makeup sites.
I read somewhere that with the rise of feminism, we are now entering a phase of sex role reversal where women get to be princesses while men are reduced to being their servants. If this is the case, it would go some way to explaining the rising popularity of the MtF transgender movement.
What is often overlooked or ignored is that the overwhelming majority of trans-sexuals are female to male… in the years before Tavistock’s Gender Identity Development Service was shut down girls wanting to be boys comprised 76 per cent of cases.
The Tavistock has not been shut down. It’s up and running today. The regional clinics that were to replace it have not opened.
I found this article hard to understand. As an aside, this generation of mothers has been pushing their daughters to grow up early for some time. The whole grotesque “mini-me” idea is all I hear about from the young moms with whom I work. They buy their toddlers bikinis, talk about their elementary age kids having boyfriends and girlfriends, etc. It’s all an extension of their own ego.
Perhaps it’s narcissism. Female narcissists (though not male, for some reason) tend to see their children as extensions of themselves.
Why isn’t there a vomit emoji on Unherd comments?
Havung fiyr Generation Alpha granddaughters, one possibly Gen A, I found this very interesting!
As a father of two girls -one a tween herself- I find this heartbreaking (and not a little creepy).
Why are kids being forced to grow up so quickly?
(I’m relieved that my eldest is nerdy like me! )